molestation

"Slap slap".....kisne kahi the tai se is taraa sadak ke beech mein woh chorron te baat karan .....bhaag ke na aa sakti thi......

This whole drama was unfolding at the colony ...

the girl had tear in her eyes..while crying, she said "tauji....what is my fault in this ?"..those 2 boys maari kaa galti hai isme....woh dono chorre manne pareshaan kar rahe the.....mohalle ki chowk tak peechcha kar rahe the tauji.....koi na aaya maari madad ko taauji"

"Re chupp kar....sharam naa aave tanne chhorri....apne taaya ke saamne pura varnan kar rahi se"...re kya saari laaj sharam bech khaayi se....The uncle said..

Girl: Tauji...main sadak par rukki unko jawaab dene ko....woh meraa peecha kar rahe the pichle 10 din se taauji....pehle filmi gaane, phir naam pataa, phir gande ishaare, phir gandi gaaliyan denaa shuru ho gaye tauji...Mai 10 din se bhaag rahi thi....

A passerby : Chaudhary saab....chorri jhooth bole se....Ye dono chorre to bike pe baithe...imme kuch na kiyaa.....Yo to yeh chorri ne inke jaake tamaacha maar diya.......ab laundo ke tamaacha maaregi..toh launde bhi to laundaagiri dikhaayenge....unne bhi dhakka de diyaa....

Girl ::: Sharma ji....."aap ne yeh to dekha ki maine inne thapadd maara....par yeh naa dekhaaki woh mujhe kitni door se tang kar rahe the..woh to mohalle ki chowk pe aakar yeh kog rukk gaye....

Uncle::: Re chupp kar....and slapped the girl again ....Zabaan chalaa rahi hai....yo shehar ka bhoot nikaalna padegaa teraa...teri maa ki taange tod dungaa.....wahi te yeh laaj lakshan aaye hain tere.....

Looking at the commotion..a police bike came and checked about the situation......arre chaudhary sahaab.....ke huaa....on being apprised  of the situation ...he gave out a loud laugh....re ke baat se apne "Baaruhera" ke laundon ko.....laundiyaa se maar khaa ke aa jaate hai.....the passersby had a heary laugh on this.....the 2 boys were seething with anger......

The people disbursed....


SCENE AT HOME:::

re lataa ki maa......kal se tu hi chodd ne jaa inhe school mein.......aur sun.....isne lassi pilaa lassi....dimaag garam hai iska.....lassi se thandaa kar......

At the night, the girl narrated the whole incident to her mother......

Mother:: Tu ne mujhe pehle kyun nahi bataaya lataa....woh tujhe 10 din se pareshaan kar rahe hai....aur tune maa ko bataaya hi nahi.....

lataa: maa tu khud itni pareshaan rehti hai......baapu ki daaru ki gandi aadat pehle hi teri jaan le rakhi hai.....

Maa: betaa main tere bhai ko bataa deti....woh aake un ladkon ki khabar letaa.....

Lataa::: Maa.....bhai se madad.......Main mar jaaungi maa......bhai se madad naa lungii.....he himself went to jail for .........Lataas voice choked with anger....Her brother had been booked for attempt to rape on Lataas friend...who used to come home with lataa often.......The rich and influential Chaudhary family had bailed the boy out.......tbis was to be celbrated as one of the things if manlihood....while never openly encouraged, but was not banned either ...

Lataa:: Maa hamaare baaruhera ...mein ladkiyon ka yeh haal kyun hai......Maa tu to shehar se hai maa.....

Mother:: Betaa...sirf baaruhera nahi...ham auraton ki haalat puri duniya mein hi aisi hai betaa...hum mardon ko janam to deti hai...par unhe insaan nahi banaa paate..

Lataa; Nahi maa....aisaa nahi hai....hamaare yahaan hi aisaa hota hai....bade shehron mein ladkiyon ko thodi to madad milti hogi....

Mother:: ek baat bataaun betaa...kismat pe mat ro....Yeh tiraskaar to auraton ki kismat mein likha hi hai.....

ScreenPlay

Screenplay for my short story ::: Are you listening ??

Scene
Office setting , looks a very busy and hectic day i  office..people are busy with their work...typing into their laptops...busy attending telephone calls


focus: On a guy, who looks very stressed out and is working . .a senior official comes upto him...this man is that guys boss

Scenes start

Boss: Shyam how are u feeling now ?

shyam: i am fine sir..(in a very matter of factly and stressed out tone)

Boss: Hows your son doing ?? Kya naam tha uskaaa...ya Anuj.....hows he doing ?? Must be a big  boy now

Shyam: theek hai sir...he troubles us a lot...me and jyoti both

Boss::(with a troubled expression) ...Shyan...u know how much this organisation values you and especially me...But i think you need to now start accepting the reality and move on.....thats how life is ???

Shyam: Boss i have moved on...and living with a reality....all of us have a different view of reality boss.... i am living with my view of that elusive reality ...


In the evening, after work, while going back to office , picking up vegetables from market & buying medicines from the medicine shop.....reaches his home


Background ::: Now at home :::sees his mother...Mother looks happy to see the son

Mother: aaj thodaa late ho gaya betaa.....

Shyam: haan maa...aaj late ho gaya tbods..where is Anuj ?

Mother: Anuj has gone out with his friends...will u have tea ?

Shyam; not now maa....i will go to jyotis room 1st....

(This had been a ritual which Shyam had been following for the last 2 years religuously..straight on reaching home from work..he would head to Jyotis room and chat up with her...on his day at office ...the daily rigours )


Shyam : Jyoti really sorry yaar...just cudnt find time to call you...had a terribly bad day..i wonder at times, why are we  working so hard ? For what ?

u know what today Varun had called

(Cut to Shyams mother talking over the phone with somebody )
Doctor sahaab...still not much inprovement in shyam.....its almost 2 years....

(Cut to the scene in room with Jyoti and Shyam)

Shyam: Varun told me that he and urvashi are separating...they are filing for divorce...

I couldn't believe my ears...In fact i even asked him to speak to you....so that u could  counsel  both him and urvashi...10 years of marriage + 5 years of a courtship .....15 years of togetherness just vanishing into thin air......whats happening to our lives and the world we live  in ?? This also has a negative impact on kids.....

Touchwood apnaa Arjun theek ja rahaa hai....achcha listen.....y dont you pick up Arjuns call....whenever i tell him that he should call you to discuss any issues at school, he gives me a very cold look and says "mummaa nahin uthaayengi phone"

(There was a knock on the door....Shyaam come and have some tea betaa....Arjun is also back)

Shyam: Chal...i will go out and chat with Arjun.....theek hai ....

( and he walks out .....cut to focus in the dark room and zoom in jyotis photo with garlands)

Cut to the conversation between mother and doctor ....

doctor...Mrs mehraa....Shyam is living in a delusion ...at times breaking such delusions can be harmful for the patient ...especially after jyotis death....hes gone into a shell and his delysional belief that jyoti is alive...is whats giving him that relief....soon he shall start coming to terms with tgis reality...till such time....please let him be in this delusional world )......

The Great Indian Men

The Great Indian Men ,  my Bretherton. ..what do I say or write about us ? We are one of the most unique set of creatures that God almighty created and then left us to our manky and macho demeanour to evolve..Considering Indias population of a nearly 130 crores , we would represent approximately 9% of the world's population..now that's quite a number....want it be interesting to know some of our traits,  behaviors and mannerisms, which have led us to nurture some very strong beliefs about ourselves

1) We suck when it comes to behavior with kids : We don't ask the parents before offering any stuff to their kids to eat , We feign ignorance and keep asking gender of the kids repeatedly. .At a recent family wedding, one of the relatives, in an attempt to get too familiar with my son, kept asking him his gender..."beta tu to girl hair , tu to girl hai. .may be some very the fir his frustration...I finally had to humbly request my son to take down his pants and let the over concerned relative check for himself , much to the embarrassment of the uncle. .

Even as Parents,  our behavior is nothing inspirational. .We force our kids to communicate with other kids or even elders. Parents rebuking their kids for not talking in English is a common site and a huge source of embarrassment for kids...We commonly discuss their marks, their shortcoming on public forum, thus driving a personal parent to parent ego agenda,  through our kids. .

Expectations :: This is a killer. ..Why do all our expectations, all our unfulfilled desires,  ambitions be passed on as burdens on the kid...by the time our kids are out

Lakshya kaul

13th October is my by kids birthday, as I write this we celebrate his birthday as per lunar calendar tomorrow. .where do I begin writing from ? Lakhsya Kaur. ..you came I to our lives 3 years ago....and made me what nobody ever could have made me...A father. ..

I don't know how you rate me as a father till now, at best you can term me as a Work in Progress...On this day I wish you great Happiness and also bit of struggle. .let me explain. .Happiness, as I genuinely feel you are a special human being..If you know your father well, you would know that your father has always tried to all a spade a spade...So not juts because you are my son, but genuinely you are a noble soul. ...Why I wish you but of struggle ? Well it's struggle that brings out ones strength of character and makes you a better person. .at the same time I also wish that God grants you enough strength and fortitude to handle your struggle

may God give you strength to handle your failures and learn from them to become the success that you truly deserve...

Let reason and rational be your guiding force in life..let you not be biased by dogmas,  blind faith and irrational emotions

May God give you the confidence to scale peaks and also give you the humilityto touch the ground

May God give you the courage to stand for your conviction your beliefs, value systems and rights.At the same time may you have the fear that refrains you from going astray

May God give you great and adorable qualities and also give you vices which you keep conquering and keep becoming a better person ever and ever

Son..Let your goal in life be happiness. .i know pressures will keep mounting a slide become tougher for you, as you step pour of comforts of your house into this world. ..but trust me, ignore those who say it's a bad world. ..The world's is only a reflection of your inner self

Remember ..Listen to your Heart, find your passion, live your life ..Go in to create your destiny....Never stop dreaming. ...Never stop trying...Never stop learning...and most importantly Never Ever Quit !!!!!! The Universe is with you. .Win the world but always remember Winners don't have it easy. ...get ready for the Ride Sunny


Lots of love. ....

Wedding talks and Gup shup

Just returned back after a 6 day break from Jammu. ..had gone to attend my brother in laws wedding..its been quite a while i attended a wedding with so.much leisure time..So it i spired me to write about this most imortant occasion in ones life from the perspecyice of the peripheral activties that surround it...that itd a great union of hearts souls and minds ...and the normal blaabering not withstanding...

Normally Kashmir weddings span over a 5 to 6 day period with at least 3 to 4 function split in between...relatives pour in from nook and corner of the country to spend these days together with their once upon a time near and dear ones. ..

General bantering, Chit chat, card sessions , singing sessions (bathroom only) over endlessccups of chai and nit bits till the tummy can't take it anymore ..where the only physical exercise is the shuffling of cards or lying down to sleep. .that's what big family weddings are supposed to be..relatives catching up with each other after months or may be years...While we are quite a savvy relationship when it comes to social media and Facebook, but nothing beats a good candid one to one chat.....

sisters interested in knowing about each other things of ybeir personal lives which are of  great national interest as Modijis maharaja campaign .....For example ...Their children's marks ( school going children), how are they doing in Engineering (by the way Engineering and MMBBS are as important for Kashmiri parents as Rahul Gandhi is to Congress )..discussions also veer around which bahu Is most ill mannered or ill tempered....Their husbands monthly salaries ( don't be amused if these are jacked up by 300% ..After all Inflation is growing )

So all this and more usually peps up a good and big family wedding. ...Another important sequence in these magnum opus events is the unveiling of the new bride's famous Attachii or suitcase. ..This is the suitcase that will seal the fate of the bride to be in houses for generations to come

so many people's prides, hope and ambitions are attached to this attachi. ... ( now I know why it's called attachii) look at the sphere of Influence and people which this attachiii can impact. .

The bride,  the groom ..obvious comparison of the bride's families with the previous or newest bride ..The comparison of groom with his brother. ....The relatives whose expectations are dashed to ground , the grooms parents. ....All for one attachiiii


So next time you go for the big Indian wediing....Don't look at the attachiii

Relationships

Relationships

"Whatever remains unsaid , whatever remains unexplained , whatever remains un expressed, understanding that is what forms the core of a relationship" If the unsaid, unexplained and unexpressed is implicit and understood it forms a relatively stronger relationship however once these elements are not understood and the need for saying,  explaining and expressing increases, that's where the stress in a relationship increases

It is such a tacit understanding that leads to the ultimate destroyer of every relationship. ..expectation. ..What a beautiful dichotomy to be in. .Understanding what is never said, never expressed , never explained ...creates a need for no further explanation. .It leads to expectations. ..and once expectations start faltering , that's where the relationship starts turning sour. ..

So in a way it's like a Frankensteinish story of relationships with expectations. ....The more you understand each other the better the relationship bbecomes and hence the increase in expectations. ..

At the crux of human lives is nothing but this intermingling and entwined maze of cseemingly simple but extrememly delicate and complex relationships..Lives are made , lives are destroyed,  lives are left wandering if this tangled mess gets any messier. .

While it's great not to have expectations and keep it simple,  a famous saying sums it up, "It's so simple to be happy but so difficult to be simple"..

YOU & ME were US once, but then YOU came and we became YOU & ME

Navratras

The Festival of Navratras is being celebrated all over the country with great aplomb , splendour and vigour. .The markets are decorated with bright lights , sparkle , color..The entire country is celebrating the 9 holy days of the Mother Goddess and her different manifestations..The state of Gujarat, this 9 day event is at tines being marketed as the ultimate fun destination with many bollywood personalities dawning the stage for dandiya performances..The 9 days of Navratras are a fun, frolic and entertainment packed roller coaster with men and women adorning colorful clothes and dancing the nights away to glory

back home in North, the mode is more of penance, fasting and soul purification. .People embark on a self created Non flour or No Anaaj diet. .With loads of fried aloo,  sweets and an indigenous jugaad of Kuttuk flour. Kuttuk is a fruit whose powder is nearest to a grain and can be used for making Kuttuk puris and pakodaas..For the weight conscious, restaurants ts have created the diet navratras packages with fewer calories. .The interesting thing is that North Indian men lead this dietary and penance driven brigade with as much discipline. ..I have seen some of my colleagues and friends, staunch carnivores and tuples completely refraining from alcohol or Meat....In a personal level, good way to Detoxify ones body..Nothing wrong with people's belief systems and the way to celebrate the 9 holy days of the Mother Goddess. ...However do we celebrate womanhood or the power of feminine only on 9 days and Completely ignore and disrespect it for the entire year. .do ponder over these things which are prevalent all across our country

a)Highest no of Rape and molestation cases
b) Eve teasing cases are on the rise
c) We have lead the world in case of female infanticide
d) women are still cautioned against going out of homes, talking to people, what to wear
e) Women still continue to be reprimanded in cases of harassment and advised not to entice men through their behavior or clothing
f)Women are still killed by own kith and kin in name of honour killings
g) Cities like Delhi and Mumbai Compete with world commercial center like Paris and London in office rentals and infrastructure,  but still fail miserably I'm women security
h) Generally as a society , we still don't treat women with respect and associated taboos still live deeply entrenched

The list is endless.....Let's celebrate festivals, let's celebrate the mother goddess and her manifestations but let's be more respectable for women..else all dietary restrictions, abstinence won't help us secure brownie point

Word of Caution :::The writer of the blog, is still struggling to manage his behavior with spouse with limited improvements. However the famous Big Indian Male Ego, at times gets the better if him..Working to improve it. ..Cheers