Fathers Day
Yet another Day to Celebrate a treasured relation in your life… Different people have different take on the concept of picking 1 day for Celebrating the most treasured relationships in ones life – Mothers day, Fathers Day, Friendship Day, Valentines Day …..While some may feel that an entire lifetime of thanksgiving may not be enough to truly cherish & the Importance which these relationships hold in your life, on the other hand, given todays lifestyles, where even recreation, enjoyment is time bound and to be completed within a time frame, it makes some sense to atleast have 1 day earmarked which is really dedicate to celebrating and honoring that Special person & relationship in your life
Many would agree that the Structure which todays families are build around is one where the Kid comes up growing closest to the Mother, as she is the One who spends the maximum time with the Kid . A Father on the Other hand, is the Bread earner for the family, who has to spend maximum time away from home, at work, and away from the kid . There exists a Very Delicate & subtle balance of relationships in this Triangle of the Father,Mother & the Kid ..Most fathers, knowingly or unknowingly assume more of a Support System role , than a Primary role … While the Male Ego may still make a Father think of his role as a Key Support Role, being bread earner role, But deep down, all Fathers know, that in the Initial 4-5 years of a Kid being Born, between the 2, a Kid would need the Mother the most in terms of their overall grooming, nurturing, emotional, mental & spiritual growth… Even Coming to terms with their Limited Capability as Compared to their better half, in terms of building shaping up the kid, especially in the initial years of the kid, which many would agree, are the most crucial in setting up the kid for the Life ahead …This is where Fathers relegate themselves to the background….It is this balance of Relationships, which the Father needs to gracefully handle, at the cost of not looking unconcerned, at the same time not exposing his own vulnerability to the situation of his infants exciting journey
I feel, that it is this balance of the sensitivity of relations & emotions, that lends a subtle complexity to a Father-Kid relationship. Somewhere a Complex of knowing fully well, about his limited capabilities of handling a Kids most Important needs at that time – Lets face it, what would be the Important needs for kids from 1yearto 5 year – Its not going to be Mobile Phone Bills, Ist not pocket money, its not girlfriend, its not College admissions, its definitely not school fees(from the kids perspective) – It’s the things like Changing his nappies, knowing their feed time, knowing how to put them to sleep, knowing how to converse with them in their most uncanny language, its knowing what toy to buy them, what clothes to make them wear as per their moods …..
So I think this little minute Complex , along with the Knowledge of their Support role in the family, adds that subtle complex to the relationship…Plus add to it the Limited time that Fathers generally get to spend with kids compared to Mothers …Then Mothers Generally holding kids to ransom, with a possible threat of a scold from Dad, or using Dads name to generally turn them off for some expensive Purchase, all of this lends quite a complexity to this highly sensitive Father-Kid relationship… Which I feel eventually grows on to mature to a Different kind of bonding to probably a realization that we might realize today on this Day
So to all Fathers, who have been the Strongest Support System, and who happily sacrificed their Role of Importance in the Upbringing of the kids, by their able better halves ….Its not easy to give your best to the relationship, knowing fully well that, in this tripartie relationship, The Other 2 need each other more than anybody in the Initial years ..For Being so Selfless and yet ever ready to oblige the Kids – Heres to all the Dads- Happy Fathers Day.
Yet another Day to Celebrate a treasured relation in your life… Different people have different take on the concept of picking 1 day for Celebrating the most treasured relationships in ones life – Mothers day, Fathers Day, Friendship Day, Valentines Day …..While some may feel that an entire lifetime of thanksgiving may not be enough to truly cherish & the Importance which these relationships hold in your life, on the other hand, given todays lifestyles, where even recreation, enjoyment is time bound and to be completed within a time frame, it makes some sense to atleast have 1 day earmarked which is really dedicate to celebrating and honoring that Special person & relationship in your life
Many would agree that the Structure which todays families are build around is one where the Kid comes up growing closest to the Mother, as she is the One who spends the maximum time with the Kid . A Father on the Other hand, is the Bread earner for the family, who has to spend maximum time away from home, at work, and away from the kid . There exists a Very Delicate & subtle balance of relationships in this Triangle of the Father,Mother & the Kid ..Most fathers, knowingly or unknowingly assume more of a Support System role , than a Primary role … While the Male Ego may still make a Father think of his role as a Key Support Role, being bread earner role, But deep down, all Fathers know, that in the Initial 4-5 years of a Kid being Born, between the 2, a Kid would need the Mother the most in terms of their overall grooming, nurturing, emotional, mental & spiritual growth… Even Coming to terms with their Limited Capability as Compared to their better half, in terms of building shaping up the kid, especially in the initial years of the kid, which many would agree, are the most crucial in setting up the kid for the Life ahead …This is where Fathers relegate themselves to the background….It is this balance of Relationships, which the Father needs to gracefully handle, at the cost of not looking unconcerned, at the same time not exposing his own vulnerability to the situation of his infants exciting journey
I feel, that it is this balance of the sensitivity of relations & emotions, that lends a subtle complexity to a Father-Kid relationship. Somewhere a Complex of knowing fully well, about his limited capabilities of handling a Kids most Important needs at that time – Lets face it, what would be the Important needs for kids from 1yearto 5 year – Its not going to be Mobile Phone Bills, Ist not pocket money, its not girlfriend, its not College admissions, its definitely not school fees(from the kids perspective) – It’s the things like Changing his nappies, knowing their feed time, knowing how to put them to sleep, knowing how to converse with them in their most uncanny language, its knowing what toy to buy them, what clothes to make them wear as per their moods …..
So I think this little minute Complex , along with the Knowledge of their Support role in the family, adds that subtle complex to the relationship…Plus add to it the Limited time that Fathers generally get to spend with kids compared to Mothers …Then Mothers Generally holding kids to ransom, with a possible threat of a scold from Dad, or using Dads name to generally turn them off for some expensive Purchase, all of this lends quite a complexity to this highly sensitive Father-Kid relationship… Which I feel eventually grows on to mature to a Different kind of bonding to probably a realization that we might realize today on this Day
So to all Fathers, who have been the Strongest Support System, and who happily sacrificed their Role of Importance in the Upbringing of the kids, by their able better halves ….Its not easy to give your best to the relationship, knowing fully well that, in this tripartie relationship, The Other 2 need each other more than anybody in the Initial years ..For Being so Selfless and yet ever ready to oblige the Kids – Heres to all the Dads- Happy Fathers Day.
