The Great Indian Men

The Great Indian Men ,  my Bretherton. ..what do I say or write about us ? We are one of the most unique set of creatures that God almighty created and then left us to our manky and macho demeanour to evolve..Considering Indias population of a nearly 130 crores , we would represent approximately 9% of the world's population..now that's quite a number....want it be interesting to know some of our traits,  behaviors and mannerisms, which have led us to nurture some very strong beliefs about ourselves

1) We suck when it comes to behavior with kids : We don't ask the parents before offering any stuff to their kids to eat , We feign ignorance and keep asking gender of the kids repeatedly. .At a recent family wedding, one of the relatives, in an attempt to get too familiar with my son, kept asking him his gender..."beta tu to girl hair , tu to girl hai. .may be some very the fir his frustration...I finally had to humbly request my son to take down his pants and let the over concerned relative check for himself , much to the embarrassment of the uncle. .

Even as Parents,  our behavior is nothing inspirational. .We force our kids to communicate with other kids or even elders. Parents rebuking their kids for not talking in English is a common site and a huge source of embarrassment for kids...We commonly discuss their marks, their shortcoming on public forum, thus driving a personal parent to parent ego agenda,  through our kids. .

Expectations :: This is a killer. ..Why do all our expectations, all our unfulfilled desires,  ambitions be passed on as burdens on the kid...by the time our kids are out

Lakshya kaul

13th October is my by kids birthday, as I write this we celebrate his birthday as per lunar calendar tomorrow. .where do I begin writing from ? Lakhsya Kaur. ..you came I to our lives 3 years ago....and made me what nobody ever could have made me...A father. ..

I don't know how you rate me as a father till now, at best you can term me as a Work in Progress...On this day I wish you great Happiness and also bit of struggle. .let me explain. .Happiness, as I genuinely feel you are a special human being..If you know your father well, you would know that your father has always tried to all a spade a spade...So not juts because you are my son, but genuinely you are a noble soul. ...Why I wish you but of struggle ? Well it's struggle that brings out ones strength of character and makes you a better person. .at the same time I also wish that God grants you enough strength and fortitude to handle your struggle

may God give you strength to handle your failures and learn from them to become the success that you truly deserve...

Let reason and rational be your guiding force in life..let you not be biased by dogmas,  blind faith and irrational emotions

May God give you the confidence to scale peaks and also give you the humilityto touch the ground

May God give you the courage to stand for your conviction your beliefs, value systems and rights.At the same time may you have the fear that refrains you from going astray

May God give you great and adorable qualities and also give you vices which you keep conquering and keep becoming a better person ever and ever

Son..Let your goal in life be happiness. .i know pressures will keep mounting a slide become tougher for you, as you step pour of comforts of your house into this world. ..but trust me, ignore those who say it's a bad world. ..The world's is only a reflection of your inner self

Remember ..Listen to your Heart, find your passion, live your life ..Go in to create your destiny....Never stop dreaming. ...Never stop trying...Never stop learning...and most importantly Never Ever Quit !!!!!! The Universe is with you. .Win the world but always remember Winners don't have it easy. ...get ready for the Ride Sunny


Lots of love. ....

Wedding talks and Gup shup

Just returned back after a 6 day break from Jammu. ..had gone to attend my brother in laws wedding..its been quite a while i attended a wedding with so.much leisure time..So it i spired me to write about this most imortant occasion in ones life from the perspecyice of the peripheral activties that surround it...that itd a great union of hearts souls and minds ...and the normal blaabering not withstanding...

Normally Kashmir weddings span over a 5 to 6 day period with at least 3 to 4 function split in between...relatives pour in from nook and corner of the country to spend these days together with their once upon a time near and dear ones. ..

General bantering, Chit chat, card sessions , singing sessions (bathroom only) over endlessccups of chai and nit bits till the tummy can't take it anymore ..where the only physical exercise is the shuffling of cards or lying down to sleep. .that's what big family weddings are supposed to be..relatives catching up with each other after months or may be years...While we are quite a savvy relationship when it comes to social media and Facebook, but nothing beats a good candid one to one chat.....

sisters interested in knowing about each other things of ybeir personal lives which are of  great national interest as Modijis maharaja campaign .....For example ...Their children's marks ( school going children), how are they doing in Engineering (by the way Engineering and MMBBS are as important for Kashmiri parents as Rahul Gandhi is to Congress )..discussions also veer around which bahu Is most ill mannered or ill tempered....Their husbands monthly salaries ( don't be amused if these are jacked up by 300% ..After all Inflation is growing )

So all this and more usually peps up a good and big family wedding. ...Another important sequence in these magnum opus events is the unveiling of the new bride's famous Attachii or suitcase. ..This is the suitcase that will seal the fate of the bride to be in houses for generations to come

so many people's prides, hope and ambitions are attached to this attachi. ... ( now I know why it's called attachii) look at the sphere of Influence and people which this attachiii can impact. .

The bride,  the groom ..obvious comparison of the bride's families with the previous or newest bride ..The comparison of groom with his brother. ....The relatives whose expectations are dashed to ground , the grooms parents. ....All for one attachiiii


So next time you go for the big Indian wediing....Don't look at the attachiii